homework. wow, just saying that word brings tension to my mind and body. i've always had great respect for homework and thought of course kids needed to review what they did in class. a little work never caused harm to anybody. well obviously no one has been to my house. in my house homework does cause harm. it brings chaos, hatred, anger, frustration, destruction, and fear. it's a mad house trying to help 3 kids with homework they don't understand, keep a toddler away so older kids can actually do homework, and make sure dinner is on the table before the night is over. my kids get so frustrated over homework that if their questions are not answered right away (which is impossible) they get upset. and with their high sensitivity to stress homework makes us all want to pull our hair out, myself included in that. they already have a fear of failing and feeling stupid so now they are going to attempt to do more work and have more attempts at failing and feeling stupid. what? why would i do that to my kids?
i'm not sure what to do here because i want to fully support the teachers and be on the same team with them. i don't want my child to be coddled and unchallenged. but i want to do what's best for my kids. even though their grade level might say 3rd, 5th, and 6th, emotionally and mentally they are much lower. doing homework for 5 hours is unhealthy for them. i'm in much need of some help and advice. and no, homeschooling is not an option.